Over the last six months I’ve been in super chill mode. I’ve done very little, workwise, because ultimately I just didn’t feel like it.
For me, that’s always a sign that something isn’t quite right. I’ve always enjoyed being active.
I don’t fail to recognise that most people can’t just do that and still lead the same life; it’s one of the great benefits of running a mostly automated business.
Anyhow, during these few months I’ve had the privilege of coaching people that approached me directly. I don’t like to say no to a direct approach.
I’ve learnt more about the feelings and emotions that we all go through when we want to take a different path be it starting a business or making a career change.
EMOTION 1: UNFAMILIARITY AND UNCERTAINTY
What are you doing?
Are you crazy?
The status quo pays the bills, it keeps everyone at peace, why would you want to change that?
Because you don’t feel completely fulfilled.
You know you need to be doing something else but you’re not sure what.
You have a few ideas of what you think you would enjoy but you’re not sure which one is the best one for you. You’re uncertain.
Write a list.
Include everything you think you want to do even the crazy stuff.
Look at the list.
Meditate on the list.
Tuck it away. Take a couple of days out.
You don’t have to think about the list at all, your subconscious will take care of that.
Two days later, pull the list out again.
Think through the pros and cons of each prospective path.
Remove the ones you think you won’t really enjoy.
Narrow the list down to two things, if that’s possible.
Will your partner support your decision?
Pass it by them.
A good partner will help you list the pros and cons; they won’t discourage you.
Toss a coin to help you decide not so that the side the coin lands on will set the decision for you but once that coin is twisting up in the air you’ll know which side you’re hoping for (Rothstein).
Will your "new thing" pay the bills?
Don’t worry too much about that for now.
Why don’t you dabble at it to figure out whether it is indeed the best option for you.
Do some research.
Talk to people in the know.
You may still be uncertain but you’re now more familiar; make a decision – go with your gut.
Next you need to figure out How To Combat “Discomfort” and “Pain” After Making A Big Life or Business Change.
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